Trying to Understand Things Around Me

Party and social-gatherings

Party abhi baki hai...

I was only five years old when I first heard of this wonder word which made everybody’s eyes gleam with joy and excitement. I have no memory of this wonder word before that very day about this thrilling word. Finish your homework soon, drink your milk before long, how about wearing your new dress?, etc. were some of the hints my mother was dropped in building the curiosity for the preparations that go into this special event called ‘Party’. Bliss bug had bitten my entire family that day and we all got ready for the evening in the best of our dresses, matching shoes and accessories. We were invited to a wedding party.

Party Bugs: I think Party Bugs would be something like these.

As I entered the decorated entrance, I was sure that I am going to witness something exhilarating and memorable because it looked so beautiful all around the place. My parents were in the best of their moods. My mother was happy for several reasons. She did not have to decide the menu for the dinner as she had no cooking to do, no kitchen to be cleaned past dinner, our home works were over. She was served delicious dishes and she could pick any of the mouth-watering snacks that came her way. She could just pick a plate and opt for her choicest the dishes profusely.  

My father could meet his old friends and relatives. He loved to exchange ideas with others and he did just that in the entire span of time in the party. As for my mother the word ‘party’ brought more goodies than that for my father. My sisters and I were also zealous to be present in the hub of good times. What could be better than to see everybody smiling and blissful? We could meet and play with friends eat whatever we liked, basically make our choices? That day onwards, for me the word ‘party’ meant ‘a real taste of free air, joyful atmosphere and pleasure of togetherness’.

Solar Globe String Lights

Brilliant lights, elevating music, amusing games and exciting entertainment, welcoming faces, exchange of gossip notes, tasty food items, etc. are some of the quick visuals that cross one’s mind when the word Party is spoken or heard. Venue of the gathering provides the platform, occasion sets the mood, entertainment gets the ball rolling, style and decor touch adds to the uniqueness, music, food and drinks muster to the josh, games and entertainment adds to the glow of the party and so parties are everybody’s favourites, almost. These are events to proclaim, get together and celebrate milestones in life like anniversary, birthday, husband’s night, housewarming, farewell, etc. are some of the formal and informal reasons for partying.

DIY party lights

Especially, the Defense forces are known for their partying capacity. People often laud the defense personnel and their families for their spirit and stamina of attending meetings and parties alike. With their busy schedule and tough duties round the clock they make sure that their families make the most of their time and talent. On another note, if we dig it deeper, parties are well implemented social gatherings meant to be more than just drinking, eating, dancing and enjoying.

The glow of the occasion makes the partygoers feel warm, optimistic, extroverted and often flamboyant. One tends to feel light-hearted, assertive and determined rather than aggressive. It is a good ‘meeting of minds’ where people can intermingle and exchange their notes about the maids, neighbours, localities, bollywood, etc. In defense forces, partying is very intelligently woven in to the traditions of the demanding and tough functioning of the workforce. It helps in cementing unity, easing of stress, smoothening of the working and strengthening of the propagation of the true spirit of the tough work culture of the armed services.  

Party Mood

Latest jokes spoken and heard lightens the mental burden, like-minded people sidle up bearing juicy tidbits of gossip to update and spice-up their minds, dance floor helps everyone to get higher levels of serotonin, known to boost mood, etc. helps everybody to relax and feel better in an assemblage. As a personality trait, people who love color orange are said to be party lovers. They like to socialize and plan types of social events- according to some psychologists ‘orange people’ are the life of the party, the uninhibited performer! 

An important part of the community is ‘communication’ which is aptly and cheerfully fulfilled at such gatherings. When you are 'drunk' (ਟੱਲੀ/ टल्ली/ tally) you can communicate all what you have not been able to say for a long time. When you are not drunk then you can ease-off yourself and communicate some important but casual talks (which cannot be done officially but those are important for office as well as everyday life). Finally, I can say that the ‘party seeds’ sown in my mind at the age of five are now well nourished trees. I cherish fond, flourishing and memorable party memories in my mind. They uplift my inner health and I try to spiritedly pass it on to others.